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So, I was sitting here thinking. What’s wrong with the guys of the world, the country, the cities, the suburbs and the ghettos, today? What is their major malfunction? What is it that they want from, look for, hope for, and dream about in a woman? Well, it seems to me what they don’t want is commitment. They do, however, want what most men call these days, a wifey. Some beautiful, young lady willing to “ride” with them, provide for them, have their backs through the hard times, have their kids, cook, clean and have sex with them and only them. In the meanwhile, their out doing some, if not all, of the following:
“hustling” the streets, or “hugging” the block, in the so-called “studio” all damn night, club hopping, hoe hopping, having multiple “baby’s mamas”, drinking, and smoking, then coming home to you (or they mama’s house) at some ungodly hour! They want you to put up with all this crap, yet, they refuse to seal the deal and commit to you! To add insult to injury, they make it your choice to, eh em, “ride along or ride alone”. How did we get to this point? How do they figure that this is ok? Have we allowed this once intolerable behavior to become the “norm”? Then, the dreaded question hit me. Is it “our” fault?
Think about it for a moment. Men used to be chivalrous, thoughtful, appeasing, even. Yes, this was long ago, but never the less, it was present at the time. Those of us blessed enough to have an example of such a man, can usually identify him as a grandfather or grand uncle of sorts. I certainly had one. My grandfather was from the age of the “gentleman”. Clean cut, sharp dressed, take you out to get to know you, kiss your hand or cheek at the end of a date and actually call you not too long afterwards. I’m not saying he was “perfect”. God knows there is no such thing. But, he set the example for my mother, my aunts and me. “Don’t bring no dummies into this family.” Those words echo in my mind over and over, like a loop. (Hmm, song idea!) He made us feel valuable. Morals were great to have. A lady conducted herself properly to get a gentleman or she was a slut bag and got the attention of all of the men mentioned above. Do we set the example for the guys now? Like their mothers? Are we their moms now? Am I mistaken, or, weren’t their moms supposed to instill those same values in their sons so that they, themselves, would know how to treat a real lady? Wasn’t their relationship with their mother the foundation of how they were to treat a woman in the future?
There once was a time when a man would dis a “slut” or “hoe”. Yes, they would still “hit”, but that would be the beginning and end of things. Now a days, the male species has embraced such a female. Now there are #1 hits on the radio all applauding the image, drive and idea of being a stripper, gold digger, and a straight up hoe making a lucrative living doing sexual favors for men who range from professionals all the way down to your everyday dirt bag. Now the “pop”ulation is condoning this example of a half-ass woman, as the “thing” to be.
Of course, we must take into consideration that we are living in the generation of the fatherless sons. Most of these young men grew up without a real dad or father figure. Leaving their mother to fill that void as best as she can. So then I ask. How are they to know how a grown man is supposed treat a grown woman?
The bond between a mother and her son is like a man and a woman in a relationship, without the sex. A woman will be hard on her son, strict, and put him in check with a quickness. She will also let him get away with murder. Sound familiar? I mean, mothers these days are allowing their grown up sons to live at home with no job and no goals until they basically find a woman who will nurture them in the same exact manner. Negating most of the duties and responsibilities that a man would normally have, and, take pride in having. In plain English, they don’t pull their weight. (These suckas want to wear the crown but don’t want the responsibility of a King.) Are we raising babies? Does a son getting over on his mother then realize that he can get over on other females too or is it just in a mans nature to be a deceitful A-hole? Maybe the world will never know.
My point is this. If we, as women, have stooped low enough to become what we were raised to frown upon, if we fought to be equal for so long that we now have taken on the “man’s role”, if we have allowed ourselves to be seen in a dim light, if we don’t straighten up and put our foot down, what will our sons and daughters be like?
Is it the fault of the men, the women, the fathers, or the mothers? The answer is yes, it is.
“hustling” the streets, or “hugging” the block, in the so-called “studio” all damn night, club hopping, hoe hopping, having multiple “baby’s mamas”, drinking, and smoking, then coming home to you (or they mama’s house) at some ungodly hour! They want you to put up with all this crap, yet, they refuse to seal the deal and commit to you! To add insult to injury, they make it your choice to, eh em, “ride along or ride alone”. How did we get to this point? How do they figure that this is ok? Have we allowed this once intolerable behavior to become the “norm”? Then, the dreaded question hit me. Is it “our” fault?
Think about it for a moment. Men used to be chivalrous, thoughtful, appeasing, even. Yes, this was long ago, but never the less, it was present at the time. Those of us blessed enough to have an example of such a man, can usually identify him as a grandfather or grand uncle of sorts. I certainly had one. My grandfather was from the age of the “gentleman”. Clean cut, sharp dressed, take you out to get to know you, kiss your hand or cheek at the end of a date and actually call you not too long afterwards. I’m not saying he was “perfect”. God knows there is no such thing. But, he set the example for my mother, my aunts and me. “Don’t bring no dummies into this family.” Those words echo in my mind over and over, like a loop. (Hmm, song idea!) He made us feel valuable. Morals were great to have. A lady conducted herself properly to get a gentleman or she was a slut bag and got the attention of all of the men mentioned above. Do we set the example for the guys now? Like their mothers? Are we their moms now? Am I mistaken, or, weren’t their moms supposed to instill those same values in their sons so that they, themselves, would know how to treat a real lady? Wasn’t their relationship with their mother the foundation of how they were to treat a woman in the future?
There once was a time when a man would dis a “slut” or “hoe”. Yes, they would still “hit”, but that would be the beginning and end of things. Now a days, the male species has embraced such a female. Now there are #1 hits on the radio all applauding the image, drive and idea of being a stripper, gold digger, and a straight up hoe making a lucrative living doing sexual favors for men who range from professionals all the way down to your everyday dirt bag. Now the “pop”ulation is condoning this example of a half-ass woman, as the “thing” to be.
Of course, we must take into consideration that we are living in the generation of the fatherless sons. Most of these young men grew up without a real dad or father figure. Leaving their mother to fill that void as best as she can. So then I ask. How are they to know how a grown man is supposed treat a grown woman?
The bond between a mother and her son is like a man and a woman in a relationship, without the sex. A woman will be hard on her son, strict, and put him in check with a quickness. She will also let him get away with murder. Sound familiar? I mean, mothers these days are allowing their grown up sons to live at home with no job and no goals until they basically find a woman who will nurture them in the same exact manner. Negating most of the duties and responsibilities that a man would normally have, and, take pride in having. In plain English, they don’t pull their weight. (These suckas want to wear the crown but don’t want the responsibility of a King.) Are we raising babies? Does a son getting over on his mother then realize that he can get over on other females too or is it just in a mans nature to be a deceitful A-hole? Maybe the world will never know.
My point is this. If we, as women, have stooped low enough to become what we were raised to frown upon, if we fought to be equal for so long that we now have taken on the “man’s role”, if we have allowed ourselves to be seen in a dim light, if we don’t straighten up and put our foot down, what will our sons and daughters be like?
Is it the fault of the men, the women, the fathers, or the mothers? The answer is yes, it is.
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